Did you ever take a plane with your son or daughter? If you listen to the stewards, they tell you that when the oxygen mask fall, you should first put on your own mask before attending to your child.
Why? If you pass out, who's going to take care of your child?
The same principle goes for taking care of yourself. You can't give anything to anyone if you are tired, unhappy and not taken care for.
And realize that nobody is responsible for your happiness, but you.
In this society we learn to always take care of others. Especially women, we tend to put our own needs last, to make others happy. But guess what, it is impossible to make someone else happy!
Happiness only comes from within. Lots of people think that when they marry that person, get that promotion or get rich, they will finally be happy. Unfortunately, when they get what they thought they always wanted, they start chasing after something or someone else. It never stops until we realize that true happiness is found within.
Off course you can do nice things for others and help them, this also contributes to your own happiness. As long as you remember to make sure you are doing great first.
So how can you take care of yourself properly?
Make dates with yourself. Everyday, do something that gives you joy. This can be meeting a friend for lunch, doing some yoga in the morning, taking a walk in the afternoon, do your nails, ....
Anything you enjoy. This time is reserved for you, put it in your agenda like a business appointment and don't let anything or anyone take this precious time from you.
When we take time to take care of ourselves, we are happy and only then can we contribute to the happiness of the people around us.
What will you do for yourself today?