If you are looking to any of these things or people to define you, you are wrong. Because knowing your worth, comes from the self and that self is sometimes very hard to find...
When I was a little girl, I had my whole life planned out. I was going to be a teacher, be married very young and have two kids by the age of 27. Today I am 30 and I am not nearly where I thought I would be. And I learned that it's okay to take a bit longer or to deviate from your 'masterplan" you had laid out for yourself, as long as you can find your way back to your main road.
The funny thing is, that it took me 10 years of soul searching to find out what I knew when I was that little girl. I have waisted tons of money partying, travelling and shopping to realize I just want t have a cosy home and be financially free.
I kept dumping my boyriends because I was afraid of commitment to eventually realize I would love to be married to my current boyfriend and grow old together.
I did more than 15 different jobs to become .... a teacher.
So how come that the child knows and the adult needs years to figure it out?
Children don't listen to us, everything they think and say comes straight from the heart. No hidden agenda's, no prejudices, no second guessing. But then the child grows up and every encounter changes their reality. It is fear that paralyses our true self.
I finally know what I want, who I am and what I am worth and it is exactly what I had always dreamed of as a girl. So go back to that time before you got hurt and tainted by life. Look back to your dreams and hopes you used to have, make them happen and know who you are and your worth. It doesn't matter what other people think or say because as long as you don't listen to your inner child, you'll never feel complete and worthy of happiness .
I hope it doens't take you 10 years to find yourself, but I know some people never do .